It was this window and these curtains. That’s what did it. We mocked the original image that the curtains were made off off, cut down a temporary board, and purchased some cheap knobs. And that’s when it happened. Every couple has some epic moment of intense fellowship (I don’t remember who I heard say that, but I liked it). He says one thing and she brings her strongest counter-argument. He firmly restates his stance and she once again brings her opposition. Depending on the couple and their individual characteristics, this could go on for a while. It might even last more than a day. And then one of them says those dreaded words, “That’s it. I knew something would do us in and this is it”.
Relax. That window and those curtains have not caused my husband and I to divorce. LOL! But make no mistake, our fellowship was intense. We’re both pretty headstrong and bullheaded. We’re both firstborn. And we both know what we want and why. In almost 10 years of marriage (13 years together), we’ve actually never really had a fight. We’re often extremely outspoken about something. But truthfully, our experience is that being equally yoked makes all the difference in the world in our day-to-day living.
It’s not really much different than other relationships that we have. If our core belief system is similar, it’s likely that disagreements will be few and far between.
The world is a very contentious place right now. Everyone has their opinions and ideas. Everyone has a sword to die on. But at the end of the day, I’m finding it particularly important to focus on non-negotiables and let the rest of it go. I’m serious. LET IT GO! I have plenty of friends who have vastly different political stances (even on the same side of the fence). There are many non-believers in my circle. But I need to find a way to maintain without having to compromise. Determine what sword you want to die on. But know the cost and be okay with it.
Now if you’ll excuse me, I’m going back to consider the cost of the sword and these curtains. I’m stubborn.
Ecclesiastes 7:9 ~ Be not quick in your spirit to become angry, for anger lodges in the heart of fools.